I’ve met some 100 women in 24 hours. I’ve also played golf twice,ikers, tennis and i snowboarded four times — and apart from those activities, I’ve Ided half a dozen times in four years, and namelybecause I’m a shy guy. Not a lot of people are like me.
I don’t know about you, but there is simply nothing more I’d rather do on a Friday night, than to go out and approach some hottie for the purpose ofhave fun and see where we end up. I know nothing about you. I can’t remember the last time you was out at a party or a bar, and saw who you friend introduced you to.
I am not going to profess that it’s easy to approach women, because it isn’t. I would also advise that you do it as soon as you get a chance because the longer you wait, the harder the process will become. But I’ll give you my honest opinion on how to pick up a chick without a problem. Trust me, you will know it once you do.
Here’s what we all do: We spot a hottie, and our brains go on the fast track to THUMP. We are totally crowded, but hardly anything is happening, so we start to think of what to say to this chicks. Some of us have no problems, getting her number and driving her home. But what about other guys who keep trying and never get anywhere?
The secret to dealing with this, guys, is to stop trying. Learn to say “No,” and you’ll be shocked at the number of women who want to meet you.
You see, when you realize that your brain is trying to speed things up so it can get through the process easier, you’ll have no problem throwing caution to the wind and just get out there. When you wait, and worry, and think about everything, you’ll be taking forever. No one’s gonna want to get burned at the bat of an closing bat.
There are three main reasons why you should take control, and learn to approach women, rather than doing the approaching, the whole nine yards.
One: it’s safer. When you pass out from under the care of a bat, you don’t have a bat to play. You hang there, and get up and try to get up and play again. When you can handle getting trampled, then you have no fear of anything.
Two: it’s a lot easier. When you approach a woman out of the blue and aren’t afraid of gettingGrokin’ some ladies right in the middle of your conversation, you learn to focus on the woman, rather than the opening line. And generally, you’ll be more successful.
Three: it gives you a chance to practice talking to women. If you want to master your conversation skills, you need to talk to women, and practice, and practice. Not only will this help you get over your approach anxiety, but it will let you talk to any girl, and really learn what works and what doesn’t.
Even if you aren’t totally confident when you approach women, you’ll soon have confidence when you approach chicks. The point isn’t to get a number, or even to get laid. The point is to get better at talking to and approaching women, and that will make you more confident, which will make you more successful. No one’s gonna keep her hand in your one zit.
If your approach anxiety is so strong, it prevents you from even talking to women, then it’s time to get on you, use the heavy lifting (Found in The Game by any name) and build you up. This is the best way to deal with your approach anxiety. This movie has a play by play, but you don’t need to know what the play by play is. Just know that getting better with women is the best thing you can do for yourself. And if you want to approach women, then practice and practice getting rejected. It’s not so bad as it seems sometimes.
You are not born with the knowledge to know how to approach women. You need to practice, practice, practice, just like anything in life. You need to take the steps necessary to become good at approaching and interacting with women.
The more you practice, the easier it gets. A band takes years to become good at playing the guitar. You can’t just blindly practice, you need to add elements of practice. I suggest that you do slow instead of fast. It may sound counter intuitive to what you are trying to do, but it’s far better. As a general guideline, the more women that you approach, then the easier it will be. This based on my experience that the more women you interact with, the easier it will be.